lapetitefigue asked: Sorry to be so impertinent; you don't have to answer ... but you? Girlfriend? Ring? Yes? Ever? You just say such sweet things about her.
Well, this is definitely the most difficult question that I’ve been asked so far… I don’t really know how to begin to answer this, to be honest. I saw that you asked me this on formspring a few weeks ago, and it’s taken me this long to formulate an answer.
It’s something that’s been running through my head the last few months, courtesy of a lot of friends getting engaged (I’ve got 4 weddings to go to this year!), but the girlfriend and I have kind of skirted around the subject, to be honest.
We’ve discussed the future in an abstract manner, talking in ideals about kids and how to bring them up, but details are completely off the menu for the time being. I’m not reading any pressure from her to hurry things along.
I really love where we are right now, relationship-wise, and I’m more than happy for it to continue that way, day by day. I’m pretty sure that she feels the same way too.
I don’t feel the need to change things, to be honest. Marriage isn’t necessarily the be all and end all of a relationship. I appreciate the legal reasons for getting married, but I don’t think that it proves your love to get married. Odd way of phrasing it, but you know what I mean.
And it’s not like I’m scarred by divorces in my life, or have a fear of marriage. My parents are coming up to 35 years of married life, and all of my close family are in long marriages. I know that marriages work. I just don’t know that it’s for me.
I want to be with this woman for the rest of my life, but I’d rather prove that each and every day with actions and words, rather than a piece of sparkly carbon or a bit of paper with some signatures on it.
